Bill and I decided before we even picked a name that we were going to keep it a secret. We wanted to make sure that the name we picked was the one we really loved and needed to sit on it for a while to make sure. We also didn't want the comments that our families are known to make, anything from "oh I hate that name" to "I knew someone with that name who was a _____" to "oh that's a great name but did you think of _____? That one is so much better." My poor cousin and his wife went through all of that and more while expecting their first child. Finally they just closed their mouths and announced their final decision once Henry David was born.
We love the name we picked and aren't keeping it a secret because it's strange or anything, it's a top 100 name, we just don't want the comments. The thing I'm struggling with though, is now that we've picked our name, I like to talk to him and call him by name. When he kicks really hard I find myself saying, "ouch _____ that hurt!" I like to call him by a human name, not just the baby. But I know myself and if I get too used to it, I'll slip up in front of other people and my family and friends just suck at keeping secrets.
So for now, we just tell people that we haven't decided yet. No one has really pushed it, probably because we just found out we are having a boy 2 weeks ago. I'm sure once my due date starts getting closer, we'll have to come up with a better line. I plan on denying that we have a name for as long as possible, I hate lying but if people know we have a name, they will push so hard and I know I'll break at some point!
I've been doing the same thing. I keep saying that we have a namless child and that once we meet him we will decide on what his name should be, although the other day I was out with a friend and her boys at the pool. The baby kicked and I said ______ I feel you. Luckily she didn't catch my slip.
ReplyDeleteIt's so hard! I love thinking of him as _______ rather than the baby!
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